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Meet FIRST Member, Kenny Krips

 “I am no longer stuck…”

As life would have it, after a few failed attempts to connect during a very busy fall, we finally had the pleasure to meet with member Kenny Krips in Philadelphia this past October. Over the summer, Kenny had contacted the FIRST office to check in, say hello, and inform us of one important detail, “It was time to tell his story.”

We think it’s important to share it!

Kenny was born in a small southern New Jersey town, Glendora, in 1970, a time period when very little was known about his skin condition (ARCI-lamellar type ichthyosis), and even less known about its  treatment. His childhood, once depicted in a documentary entitled “Kenny”, was admittedly not ideal, as he not only was singled out for his skin condition, but was also the child of divorce at a very early age.

However, to his good fortune, Kenny was surrounded by the love of a supportive older brother, and a mother to whom he gives a world of credit for his upbringing.  “Raising a child with a rare condition that no one has ever heard of, virtually on her own, my mom never once let on that she was anything less than strong and confident,” he said. And, she taught him one of the most valuable lessons of all: Do not pity yourself. Respect yourself, and always present well.

And present well he does. Although Kenny admitted over the years he has experienced dark periods of frustration and low self-esteem, he now feels his life experience, including his ichthyosis, has brought him to a place of acceptance, with a good dose of wisdom.   He is a friendly, well-spoken gentleman, with a new perspective on life, and an enviable passion for his work.

“In a way, I am blessed to be around trauma,” Kenny proclaimed.

Although Kenny’s degree is in interior design, he feels compelled to help people on a deeper level. As the business supply coordinator for the trauma unit at Cooper University Hospital, he has ample opportunity to connect with people in a very deep and meaningful way.

“This woman came into the trauma unit because she had been in a car accident. She had Alzheimer’s and was very confused and agitated. I sat next to her and just rubbed her foot. She did not ask what happened to me (lifting his hands up to show that they are very affected), she just sat, looked me in the eyes, and listened. And then she started to calm down. She seemed to really be affected by what I was saying,” he said, further explaining why his job is so fulfilling.  “The other day a man in the trauma unit stopped me and said, ‘thank you so very much.’ For what?, I asked. ‘You asked me if I was ok and let me know you were here to help me and that made all the difference.’ It really made me feel good.”

Kenny credits his job as being a major influence for his newly found perspective. “There are so many parts of my job that make me feel good about being alive. And as my mom always said, “If you help one person in 44 years, you did your job.”

He has also come to terms with the notion that “everyone suffers” in one way or another. “I do still get frustrated, sometimes. Like when I want to wear black or be outside on hot day. But everyone struggles with something once in a while…finances, career, health issues. Everyone faces the fear of the unknown,” he said as he explained that this realization has left very little room to feel sorry for himself. “I am lucky that I have a strong family unit, a job I love, and amazing friends.”

With regard to how he now handles adverse reactions to his condition, Kenny adds, “I would rather have people acknowledge the “difference,” then just stare or ignore. But if they do stare, or make a face, I just have to pardon them. Life is too good to worry about it.”

When asked how his life would change if he suddenly did not have ichthyosis, Kenny joked, “Well, I’d never be out of a speedo!”  But then he added, “I am absolutely okay with who I am. I am not mad at who I am anymore, no longer stuck. I feel good about what I do and I want to continue to do that. I don’t want to stop. I think the man upstairs has it all mapped out for me. Whatever time I do have here, I want to make the best of it…ichthyosis or no ichthyosis.”

 


Life After the FIRST National Family Conference…

 

Meet FIRST Member, Anke Fronz

It’s been nearly 5 months since the family conference! But by all accounts, the special connections and life transformations are still going strong.   Recently we caught up with Anke Fronz,  and she was delighted to share how she has discovered a more confident, “fearless” self, since meeting others, for the very first time, with ichthyosis.

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My name is Anke and I have ARCI Congenital Ichthyosiform Erythroderma (CIE). After several years, I finally took Dr. Amy Paller’s advice and signed up for the FIRST conference this past June. It was a tricky decision but deep inside, I knew this would be life changing.

I remember Peanut (my wonderful dog) and I driving to the conference. It was an interesting drive with lots of rain and some sun – not to mention, my accompanying bundle of nerves, and all of the self-talk! Recently, I was asked to write about my experience at the conference, but truth be told, I do not even now where to start. I went in as an insecure person-nervous and lacking in self-confidence, yet, somehow, still ready to go. I set the intention that I would meet people, not hang out in my room, smile a lot and, of course, deepen my knowledge about dealing with ichthyosis.

Once we arrived, Peanut, my faithful travel companion, was more than happy to go for walks and meet everyone he saw at the hotel. Deep inside, I feel he made it his goal to get me out of my shyness and have fun.

Well, it worked! I  felt quite differently on the days leading up to our arrival at the conference, than when I left. I met so many wonderful people and made some very good connections. I know that I will keep them from here on out and I cherish all the hugs, smiles and conversations over that weekend. It was so nice to meet people that were like me, and we had so many things in common. Plus, I met a lot of people that lived nearby and that was really nice to know.

For 42 years, I had a feeling that people with ichthyosis were out there, but I always felt alone. I guess because I never really met anyone with ichthyosis. Now, I am not afraid and I know that even though I may not see the friends I made or the people I met on a daily basis, there is this special wonderful group that I am part of and it makes me feel stronger. And, of course, thanks to Peanut, I met more people that I ever thought I would have on our first night at the hotel. It was wonderful and every part of me, inside and out, was smiling and beaming with happiness. Peanut was looking out after his mom for sure.

It was not only amazing to meet new people, but it was wonderful learning about how they handle their skin, and life in general.   When I was talking or listening to conversations about family support, or at what age they started putting lotion on themselves etc., it was at those moments, I thought about my family, especially my mom. She passed away in 2004 and she was my biggest supporter. She never made me feel different or let me get down on myself. Although, she never met Dr. Paller, or heard of FIRST, I know she would have loved the conference, and I know that she probably played a part in me attending this one. There are plenty of questions that I have about my childhood that I will never know or understand and it’s okay. You can not live in the past, the most important thing is to be in the present, in the now, as they say.

Anke & Peanut

Anke & Peanut

So, for the now, I am a lot stronger and more fearless than I was back in June. I take more pride and ownership of my ARCI CIE, it makes me “me” and I am very happy and blessed to have been given this life. I also do not feel the need to hide as much, stay under make up all the time. And on those days that it is so humid, and everyone is complaining, I walk with my head held high. I also can laugh inside when people are wearing shorts and I am freezing and in a sweater and pants. I am so very grateful to Dr. Paller, my dad and FIRST for everything and helping me out. I know that there is nothing that I   can not do, a person that I can not go up and talk to, because I am Anke, who loves to laugh, do new things and is not defined by just my skin. I look forward to future conferences, my work with FIRST, and growing the relationships I’ve created.

 - Anke Fronz


Why Donate to FIRST?

A fair and valid question. And, in fact, one of the most rewarding and exciting parts of the job, for the staff at FIRST, is to provide the answer. Likely you are already aware that donating to FIRST will ensure the continuation of the Research Grant Program, whereby the top investigators in the field of ichthyosis research will be supported in their pursuits to find better treatments and an eventual cure. However, as the global leaders in ichthyosis advocacy and research, it is not only our job to bring public attention to this rare condition and support the advancement of research, but to also embrace those living with ichthyosis today, and to help them live a rich, fulfilling, and healthy life. Your donations make this possible.Conf2014-TubBO-Melton-AS (5)

Did you know that one of the programs supported by your donation is our Regional Support Network (RSN)? The RSN offers numerous connection opportunities including regional meetings, family conferences, FIRST to Know conference calls, and access to an extensive network of ichthyosis experts. It is one of the many programs funded by individual donations, corporate appeals, fundraising events, United Way and CFC donations, and private grants. FIRST does not receive any governmental funding; it is solely funded by individual and private donations.

Perhaps you have even attended one of our events, been connected to a doctor or family in your region, or gained some insight about ichthyosis on a FIRST to Know conference call? If so, you may have a deeper understanding of the critical need for these types of personal connections, as well as the rare opportunity to build relationships with the top doctors in the field of ichthyosis. The RSN offers life-changing connections that may not occur in any other situation. Your donations make these connections possible.

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When asked about the importance of the RSN, and how it has changed the lives of so many, Program Director, Moureen Wenik, said,

“The ichthyosis community is a small and very close knit community. I have witnessed the relief people feel when they have someone to talk to who really understands what it is like to have a child with ichthyosis, or be an affected adult. It is great to talk to someone who ‘gets it’ and doesn’t have to explain ichthyosis. The RSN provides a safe place for families to connect, whether through social media, by telephone, or face-to-face at a meeting. Often they have never met another person who shares the disorder. The feelings of isolation for new moms, parents of children with ichthyosis, or affected teens or adults with ichthyosis, can be overwhelming. This support network gives people the opportunity to talk to others who have experience living with ichthyosis and to share their feelings with others who understand.” Your donations help improve the lives of those in the ichthyosis community.

The RSN is only one of the programs supported by your donations. We’ll be sharing even more amazing ways your support is making a difference.DSC03579

FIRST encourages you to take advantage of the many opportunities and resources available through our foundation. And, we thank you wholeheartedly for helping us to provide them for you, each and every day.

More information on the Regional Support Network.


Why Don’t I Sweat?

 

Since ichthyosis is such a rare disorder, often there are myths and misconceptions about the condition and how it might physically present itself. At the FIRST National Family Conference in Indianapolis, we sat down with Dr. Leonard Milstone, from Yale University, and posed a commonly asked question amongst those affected with ichthyosis: “Why don’t I sweat?”  This occurence of “not sweating” is often misunderstood and, in fact, many individuals have the misperception that those with ichthyosis do not have sweat glands, which causes them to be prone to overheating and heat stroke. Dr. Milstone clarifies fact from fiction in this brief video interview:

FACT:  People with ichthyosis do have sweat glands.  However, the thickness of the skin and the scale does not allow sweat to reach the surface of their skin and cool them effectively; so many individuals with ichthyosis do not sweat normally and suffer from overheating. Discover more “Dispelling of Myths” about ichthyosis.


Member with self-proclaimed “long legs not meant for running”, will run Aramco Houston Half Marathon for FIRST

 

It is always exciting at FIRST when new members are inspired in such a way that they immediately embrace our community, making the most of our services, resources, and opportunities to connect.  In June of 2013, we met Andrew and Heather Sanders for the first time, along with their son Ruairi, who is affected with epidermolytic ichthyosis (EI), at a regional support meeting in Dallas, Texas.  Ruari was just six months old.  In a little over one year’s time, they have made numerous connections within the FIRST community, providing support for others and enthusiasm for our advocacy efforts, in every possible way.  Today we are sharing the story of why Andrew, a man who self-reportedly does “not have legs for running,” will run 13.1 miles, to say thank you

Heather and I had decided we would try to run a marathon when we moved over to the United States. We had originally applied to do a full marathon in 2012, but our arrival to the states was delayed by a few months, so we decided to defer.  I ran the Houston half marathon in 2013, not long after Ruairi was born.  It was particularly hard to keep my training going on with little to no sleep in the early months!   Obviously, Heather couldn’t run in 2013, because it was only a couple of months after Ruairi was born. She did run her first marathon in 2014 and managed to beat my time! So, needless to say, I have extra motivation for 2015!

Sanders-webBut our story with FIRST began after Ruairi was born in 2012. We were obviously aware of the fact that his skin wasn’t as we’d expected.  It was very red in places, and sort of paper-like in others.  The doctors ran over a number of possible explanations, many of which were deeply concerning, and told us that he would be taken to Texas Children’s Hospital in downtown Houston.  Before he was taken by ambulance, one of the neonatologists mentioned the possibility of ichthyosis to us.

I was aware of ichthyosis, having seen a documentary back home in the UK about a family in England who had two daughters with harlequin ichthyosis.  When we googled the term ichthyosis, the image results primarily showed babies with harlequin, so we knew that Ruairi didn’t have that particular form of ichthyosis. But we were obviously still very worried about him.  Heather quite quickly found her way to both FIRST and the UK ichthyosis support networks and we have found them to be an amazing resource. Indeed Heather is very active in the Facebook community, both with friends whom we’ve met at FIRST conferences and with new members.  We had a great time at the FIRST Family Conference in Indianapolis this past summer. We met some amazing people and learned a great deal.

We were even motivated to organize a fundraiser day at the Houston Astros a few months ago, which we were more than pleased to do.  It’s really great that MLB teams do this for charities.  It brought some of the local families who are affected by ichthyosis together, while raising some awareness among those who came to the table and picked up a wristband or some literature.  Obviously, there is still a long way to go.  It was just only this weekend that I had some harmless but frustrating comments from strangers that Ruairi looked like he’d gotten too much sun.  My stock response is to tell them that he has a skin condition and, and no, I haven’t let my two year old get a second degree burn, although I tend to only think the latter part of that line!

In all honesty, I’m running the 2015 Houston Marathon, January 18, 2015, in hopes that I can raise some money to help 10151801_10152426926206153_735919315687901046_nsupport FIRST by way of thanks for the support they have given us.  I’m sure I can get some of my friends to sponsor me on the basis that a half marathon is a challenge for anybody, but particularly a former basketball player of 6’8″!  My long legs are not really made for running.

In the longer term, I’m sure like most people reading this, I really hope for a cure.  I’m confident that a good amount of research into genetic conditions is already happening and that people who deal with ichthyosis can benefit from scientific discoveries elsewhere.  Obviously this all comes down to money.  Perhaps the money I raise can also be put towards research.  But perhaps just raising a little awareness will also do some good! A donation link has been set up so you can join us in supporting FIRST, and making a difference.

-Andrew Sanders

How Can I Prepare for My Visit with an Ichthyosis Medical Expert?

So, you’ve finally scheduled an appointment with an ichthyosis medical specialist, but have no idea as to how to prepare – no worries, our physicians will guide you step-by-step on how to have most effective visit possible.
At the FIRST National Family Conference in Indianapolis this past June, we sat down with Drs. Keith Choate and Philip Fleckman and asked them that very same question. Here’s a video clip of our interview, followed by a checklist of the critical steps necessary to prepare when meeting with an ichthyosis specialist.

• Educate yourself as much as possible, beforehand. The FIRST website is a wonderful resource with abundant information on the both the clinical and emotional aspects of many types of ichthyosis and related skin types.
• Bring the affected person to the visit only and leave the rest of the family at home, if possible. This will help with concentration, focus, and ensure that you cover all your areas of concern. The more relaxed you can remain, the more effective the visit will be.
• Discuss the situation with your spouse, or family members, that will not be at the doctor visit. Write a list of their questions and your questions, so you don’t forget anything, and bring it with you.
• Write a summary, journaling what your experience has been since you or your child was diagnosed. Reach out to the doctor before the first visit, by either mailing, emailing, or discussing it with them over the phone. Let them know the exact genetic diagnosis if you have that information, symptoms, concerns, and specifically how ichthyosis is affecting your lifestyle. Writing it down may also take some of the emotion out of the story, so you can remain focused, and also help the doctor to better prepare for the visit.
• Bring all blood test results, physician reports, photographs, etc. – anything that has been medically recorded.
• Always remember there is a difference in what you read on the internet, and what the average experience might be. Many times the internet is filled with “worst case scenario” stories. At your visit, discuss the things that scare you with your doctor. He or she will be able to discern medical fact from hype and sensationalism, and provide more supportive stories, people and resources.

Don’t hold back on discussing anything that comes to mind, particularly issues that have made you uncomfortable. This visit is an opportunity to educate yourself and to give yourself peace of mind.

Can Reality Outshine our Wildest Dreams?

On any given day, Amy and Andy Coolidge of Frisco, Texas, can be found sprinting from one doctor’s visit to the next, while keeping up with life’s never-ending demands and “multi-tasking to the max.” Yes, they are a married couple in the middle of their lives. Yes, they have jobs, housework, finances, and errands to run. And, yes, they are raising three young children.  However, the Coolidge’s are juggling just a bit more than most – as each of their three children have special needs.


Their children, Chase, age 8, Madison, age 12, and Drew, age 14, are all affected with the rare disease, Trichothiodsytrophy, also known as TTD.  According to Dr. John DiGiovanna of the NIH, “TTD is a rare autosomal recessive disorder that is characterized by brittle, sulfur-deficient hair, short stature, and multisystem abnormalities. Patients may have exaggerated sensitivity to sunlight (photosensitivity), developmental delay, recurrent infections, and ichthyosis.”

Mom Amy says, “Trichothiodystophy affects all of my kids differently.” Madison has Primary Immune Deficiency, a condition which weakens the immune system, allowing repeated infections and other health problems to occur more easily, and Neutropenia, an immune deficiency which presents as an abnormally low count of neutrophils, a type of white blood cell that helps fight off infections. Chase also is immune deficient and has most recently been diagnosed neutropenic as well.

And yet, even while faced with these extraordinary challenges, the Coolidges greet each day with hope, energy and grace. They are bound and determined to make the very best of their situation and the very best lives for their children.310

“These kids are amazing, challenging, daunting, and inspiring,” says Amy.

”People stop us at the grocery store, at school, and in restaurants to comment on how much joy our kids bring them just by seeing them, knowing them, or talking to them. Every day brings a new emotion. Some days it brings happiness, some days it brings fear; but every day brings knowledge. We learn something new about Trichothiodystrophy and ichthyosis every day.”

But on one particular day last February, they were greeted with something a little more – a stroke of magic, courtesy of the Make-A-Wish Foundation.

IMG_4384They were informed that Make-A-Wish would not only be sending them on a spectacular trip to Disney World, for seven days and seven nights, but the local Dallas Make-A-Wish chapter would also be granting the “firefighting” wishes of  little Chase, making him an honorary firefighter for the day. “He got his own bunker gear. He flew in the Care Flight helicopter, and they even had him put out a fire and rescue someone!” said Amy as she described “Fire Safety Town,” equipped with “mock” rescue operations.

“To see your son, who goes through a lot, doing something he really wanted to do is truly a blessing,” added Chase’s dad, Andy.

But the dream didn’t end there. Madison, now an official “Wish Kid” was also asked by fashion designer Loren Franco to participate in a fashion photo shoot!

“Madison was so excited, she had never done anything like this before.”IMG_4820

The photos were stylized as “dream like” fairytales with Wish Kids strolling through a sunny meadow, wearing dramatic, flowing dresses. But not just ordinary dresses, these were Loren Franco originals, and by that, of course, means they were born from the imagination and crafted of “the unexpected” – more precisely…the were made from real parachutes!

The photos will be featured in upcoming promotional materials for Franco’s “Reaching for the Stars” fashion show scheduled for September 20, 2014, where she’ll introduce her latest line of art-inspired fashions and accessories. The cat walk will be graced by the Wish Kids themselves.  “Madison and a few other Wish Kids were also asked to be a model in the fashion show in September. It’s like this wish never ends!” added Amy.

So, yes, for this special family…reality shines on. Stay tuned.


Should Grandparents & Extended Family Attend the FIRST National Family Conference?

 

 

At some point in their journey with ichthyosis, individuals and parents with affected children will need assistance, both physically and emotionally, from someone other than their medical practitioner. In difficult times, a reprieve from the day-to-day, a shoulder to lean on, or simply a trustworthy listener, can truly be a life-saver. More often than not, this type of support comes from extended family.  And although it can be stressful, turning to family in these types of situations may not only be therapeutic, but can create unbreakable bonds for parents, grandparents, and siblings.

Perhaps you are the grandparent, aunt, uncle, or sibling of an individual affected with ichthyosis, and are contemplating whether or not to attend the upcoming FIRST National Family Conference?  Over the years we have met countless individuals who were contemplating this very same decision, many of whom ultimately decided it was best to attend the conference, not knowing really what to expect, or if they would gain any benefit at all. Cina,Sean-Portia-Jolie-Mary-Dave2

Mary and David Cina, grandparents of  Myles and Portia Cina, affected with ichthyosis en confetti said, “We attended and will continue to attend FIRST conferences to support our son, daughter-in-law, and grandchildren.  We have learned a lot and enjoyed meeting other families, learning their challenges, and how they have dealt with them.  The doctors provide a wealth of knowledge and are very approachable, willing to help and teach all attendees.” (The Cina Family pictured left)

 

Chrissy See, a sibling of member Rachel See, also affected with en confetti ichthyosis, is not only attending the conference in Indiana this year, but has played a pivotal role in helping to gather items for the conference fundraising raffle. “My family has always been a huge inspiration, and recently my friends, respected colleagues, and even “strangers” have become my new source of inspiration for my involvement with FIRST. In fact sharing on our company community webpage to 200 work friends created generous donations and support. I am looking forward to attending the FIRST National Conference because it will also be a special opportunity for me to learn and grow from others. Awareness is the first step to curing ichthyosis and I am inspired by others to take that next step for my family.” (Chrissy See pictured right).

And Kellie Wilson, sister of Shannon Hamill, and aunt of Lauren Hamill affected with harlequin ichthyosis, has been by her family’s side siKellie Wilson, Shannon Hamill, Kelly Klafternce day one. “ My niece Lauren was born with harlequin ichthyosis. Two words no one in my family had ever heard before. Now the word ichthyosis has become familiar to me and my family and it is not as scary anymore, thanks to the FIRST Family Conferences.  It was comforting knowing that they were not alone and that there was a whole community out there for them to learn from and to share their stories with. The first time in Chicago I was there as more of a supportive role. I wanted my sister and her husband to attend as many discussions as possible without having to worry about Lauren. However, this will be my third conference and I am looking forward to seeing everyone again. ”

 Although there are numerous opportunities for networking and education at the family conference, in the end, it seems that sometimes simply “being there” for a family member may just be the most meaningful kind of support you can give. (Kellie Wilson, Shannon Hamill, Kelly Klafter pictured left).

 

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Dermatologist Discusses Integrative Approaches to Skin Care, at the National Family Conference.

 

Some of the most popular “eastern” wellness practices have made a permanent impression on the western physical fitness scene, including the practices of Meditation, Yoga, and a nutrient-dense, Plant-Based Diet.

shutterstock_137890049Meditation has been associated with increased focus, and tension relief, while Yoga is widely recognized as a practice for building muscle, increased joint flexibility, and a way to relax the overactive mind.  (Read how one FIRST member, uses Yoga to improve core strength and flexibility, reduce body aches and pains, and lower mental stress).  An exciting, energized and in-depth look at the benefits of these “integrative medicine” practices will be presented at the National Family Conference during the breakout session: Stressed Out? Natural approach for wellness, balance, and healthy living.  This session will be led by Vindhya Lakshmi, Dermatology Resident at Indiana University. Vindhya will discuss how making a few small lifestyle choices, can produce BIG results. Her session will include:

  • Intro to Yoga: How yoga can help reenergize and strengthen your mind, body and spirit
  • Meditation 101: Learn quick and easy breathing techniques to re-center and recharge
  • Fruits, Veggies, and Smoothies OH MY -Yes you can make healthy changes today! 
  • How to Break the Routine and create healthy, long-lasting habits.

 About Our Workshop Leader:
Vindhya is a driven, energetic & proactive Dermatology Resident at Indiana University with a strong and continually expanding passion for overall integrative & holistic wellness. Her future practice will focus around integrative approaches to improve skin care, utilizing both eastern and western techniques. She also advocates a plant-based lifestyle, and is dedicated to empower others to live more fulfilling, proactive lives.

 

 

 

HOW RUDE!

 

National Family Conference Tackles Rudeness Head On

 How Rude, Can You Believe They Said That?”- This breakout session at The National Family Conference will offer all the tips and tactics you’ll need for dealing with unwanted stares, comments, or flat out rude behavior. The session will be led by Eric Scott, a pediatric psychologist from the Riley Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Clinic at Indiana University. Eric has extensive experience working with individuals and their families in adjusting to and coping with chronic medical illness. His work frequently encompasses repairing the effects of bullying and teasing that those with chronic illness face. The session will cover specific ways to respond to instigators; how to emotionally cope with being teased and how to build resiliency in the face of distress and adversity.

 Why Talk About Rudeness?

Over the years countless members have expressed feelings of frustration and isolation, brought about by the emotional roller coaster of dealing with rude comments, bullying, and offensive behavior. And although it is natural to take a defensive posture, and for upsetting emotions to arise, there are also many productive steps that can be taken toward a peaceful resolution. Some of the most widely used practices include:

 Educate Them – Sometimes explaining you or your child’s skin condition is the best way to handle all the questions, stares, and negativity. FIRST can provide you with convenient awareness cards briefly explaining the genetic condition of ichthyosis and that it is not contagious.  These cards can be very useful for public activities, such as dining out or traveling. You can also distribute to someone who has made an offensive or rude comment or simply give to friends, family, or your community.

 Build Your Inner Confidence – Participating in activities that make you, or your child, feel confident and accepted will build resilience toward rudeness. Turning to games, physical activities, hobbies, personal interests – anything you enjoy – is not only enjoyable but can support an emotionally strong outlook in tough situations. Knowing that you have unique skills, strengths, and interests, and sharing those interests with others, will ensure that you are perceived as the multi-dimensional person that you are, and not solely defined by your skin disorder. There will always be people who try and put others down. Self–esteem is the best defense.

 Patience is KeyAs difficult as it may be to accept, sometimes people are just afraid of the unknown. It may take a little while for the whole community to become informed of the disorder, and the special circumstances it may present. Once they have a chance to get to know you or your child – beneath the surface – you will feel more and more comfortable just being yourself, and less concerned with what others may do or say.

We’ll take an even deeper look at this issue during the conference, and provide ample opportunity for members  to ask questions, make suggestions, share stories, and walk away well-equipped for dealing with rude behavior. You will also find our newly expanded Bullying and Rude Behavior Resource Sheet on our website, chock full of ways for you or your child to resolve the uncomfortable situation of “dealing with rude behavior,” as well as suggested reading and links to related resources.

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